Consistent approaches to behaviour
Working together for a consistent approach towards behaviour at home and at school can:
- Help the parents/carers and teachers develop a better understanding of the strengths and challenges associated with a child’s behaviour
- Show the child that teachers and parents communicate and that there is agreement on important rules and expectations.
Ways to work together include:
- Being consistent
- Same expectations of behavior at home and school
- Using clear, consistent consequences
- Same consequences for unwanted behavior at home and school
- Acting immediately
- Rewards and consequences happen as soon as possible after the behavior
- Giving the child clear feedback
- Encouraging and praising good behavior
- Helping them to understand the effect of unwanted behavior
- Keeping rewards and consequences ‘fresh’
- Although consistency is important, consider when new types of rewards are needed to prevent boredom and lack of interest.
So, what are some of the ways to manage behaviours? Teachers have many techniques, for example:
- Find out what’s wrong
- Offer to help
- Make sure your body language is not threatening
- Get by their side, rather than face to face
- Don’t get too close
- Avoid standing over them
- Avoid pointing
- Try to look caring rather than angry
- Avoid getting drawn into confrontation with the child
- Calmly make clear what behavior is expected
- If appropriate to the situation, use humour to ‘diffuse’ or relax the atmosphere.
Success depends on good communication between teachers, parents and carers. For example:
- Agreeing how often and how to communicate
- Sharing what works, and together trying to improve what doesn’t work
- Being open and honest about challenging behaviour.
Discussion guide: Consistent approaches to managing behaviour
This discussion guide helps teachers, parents and carers to:
- Discuss and agree how to ensure a consistent approach to managing aspects of a child’s behaviour
- Work together to improve a child’s behaviour at work and school.
Creating a consistent approach within the school
As children with ADHD can thrive on familiar structure and routines, management of their behaviour can form part of a strategy that includes their time before, during and after school.
You can use this short tool to:
- Think about some of the issues that can arise when children with ADHD are not managed consistently by different staff members
- Identify how to start building a consistent approach within the school.